Not needing to bear all my personal life on the world wide web, I will touch lightly on the subject as to how I encountered the need to dig into the Scriptures and discern the Father's will for my life regarding this issue. At two months pregnant with my little baby boy (the fifth blessing the Father has bestowed upon me), my ex husband matter-of-factly ended our marriage. Caught in a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions, I immediately opened the Scriptures and was overwhelmingly comforted. Not looking for the passage, I simply opened the Bible to 2 Corinthians 6. That was enough understanding for me to know clearly that the Father was present with me, even though my world as I knew it and my family were crumbling to pieces.
Over the next few months I tried to begin adjusting to my new life and tried to picture what the future would hold for me. I had ascribed to the only school of thought I had ever been taught regarding Yeshua's words on divorce (that anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery), and felt now I would walk through this world as if a scarlet letter "D" was on my chest forever. I felt condemned to never get to live out my heart's desire to share in marriage the love of Yeshua and His Father. But even when the words are difficult to hear, I have committed myself to the Father that I would always be fully submitted to Him because His ways are so much higher than my ways and His thoughts higher than my thoughts.
But something about this school of thought was not sitting well with me. My original thinking of this "adulteress" theological interpretation was that it was pretty cut and dry. However, I figured I would at least be fair to assess both sides of the argument (remarriage and remaining single) when the nagging thoughts did not go away. Thoughts flooded my head of YHVH's provisions for women, especially widows and women being covered and provided for including the law of the kinsman-redeemer, providing food for women and the poor, the woman needing to run her home, etc. It just didn't seem to me that with my commitment to my spouse and my children and doing my best to not even hint at indecency let alone adultery...why would I be sentenced to a life of extreme hardship, abandonment and a sentence fit for a cheating spouse?
With all of that said, I don't want to lead anyone down a wrong path. I urge you, if you are facing similar circumstances, to seek the Father first in all things. But in my own walk I did come across a couple of sources of information on these matters in favor of remarriage, and I know for the first time I had felt some comfort on this issue.
Again, pray and seek YHVH in all things. THEN, He will give you the desires of your heart.
First are several posts in a Messianic forum that shed a little more light on what Yeshua himself said about marrying a divorced woman. It is a discussion that is being brought forth to fairly reason out the Scriptures with regards to Yeshua, the Torah, and divorce. I had to read the entries several times along with the Scriptures to deliberate the opposing arguments. I feel that the reasoning behind their argument for remarriage was well supported and presented. Here is the link:
Torah and Divorce
Secondly, I stumbled upon a Torah Talk radio program speaking of these issues as well. During the recording the men broadcasting spoke of a second part to their discussion, but I could not find it! I only wished that I could hear more from these men of YHVH (of whom I highly regard) concerning this matter! You can listen to this particular radio program here:
Torah Talk: Moses, Divorce, and Remarriage
Hope this helps give a little more balanced perspective on the Scriptures. Weigh both arguments fairly and seek the Father above all!
And finally, by all means understand me in this: I am NOT in any way an advocate of divorce. NOT ONE BIT. The vows said before the Father and to another person in this capacity are sacred. I firmly stand for marriage as I hope you do too!